:: Decide Your Path wisely ::

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Secret Two
Decide Your Path wisely
The Story of a Man and His Street


That day, I was reading the Internet forum I frequent daily and saw an article posted by a member. The title? Would You Marry You ? My…. Isn’t that an interesting question? I chuckled at the words on my laptop screen. The title was certainly interesting enough to make me sit up immediately, and honestly, I was curious to see how people would respond!

A few minutes after reading the article, I just sat there, with my back against the chair, pondering. The article had asked me to think of all my own behaviors and habits and ask myself this one, vital question:

-If I met a person (i.e. myself) who had this list of characteristics, behaviors, and altitudes, would I marry her ? –

I was supposed to reflect on my current behavior, and this is the key: not the behavior or the character I wish to possess in the future. The evaluation period is now, current, present and at-this-instant behavior.

I began pondering. This method is excellent. Hmm…Would I marry me?. Surprisingly, I found my honest self saying, “Maybe,” instead of, “Definitely,” or “Of Course!” So, I then asked myself what things I should do to help me to changed my answer from a maybe to be a definite yes? And, so, I started creating another list.

This method is so great that I decided to use that same line of questioning on myself for other things, too, like : Would I befriend me ? Would I trust me? Would I love me? Would I boss me? Would I student me? Or, maybe even: Would I daughter me? Okay, I know the last three sound a little bit weird, but I think you know what I mean, right?

To make it more understandable, you can rephrase the question in another format: would I take me as friend? Would I trust a person like me? Would I love a person just like me? Would I wan to work with someone like me? Etcetera. Hmm….

I was quite amused by the answers I gave to each of my question, The results confirmed that I am only human (duh!), with many weaknesses (double duh) – and I could definitely benefit from someone behavioral changes. Definitely, I smiled while looking at the honest-to-goodness list about myself as I realized that this article was about change. Improving oneself. Making the effort. Transformation. Alteration.

It presented a lovely method for self-assessment of our current character and everyday behavior. No multiple-choice question and a list of mismatched answer to tell us who we are. Just one question, and we do our own thinking for the answer.

Allah, our Creator, has told us the importance of taking responsibility for our actions:
(To any of you that chooses of press forward, or to follow behind-Every soul will be (held) in pledge for its deeds.) (Al-Muddaththir 74: 37-38)


Subhanallah. We will all be asked by Allah to account for our individual actions, and the most important thing will be that we are responsible and accountable for them. Responsible and accountable. Two words that give me sleepless nights….

Remember this Hadith:

‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar narrated that the Messenger of Allah said, “Everyone of you is a guardian and is responsible for his charges. The ruler who has authority over people, is a guardian and is responsible for them, a man is a guardian of his family and is responsible for them; a woman is a guardian of her husband’s house and children and is responsible for them; a servant is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it; so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your charges”. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)


Because of the above Hadith, I know in my heart that I must change the modify anything within me that is inconsistent with my DEEN (religion), because, one day, I will be questioned by my Lord. This has made me realize something profound. Just imagine, my name being called out in front of the whole of mankind, everyone from Adam to the last man born, all eyes looking at me… then, all my wrongdoings made public and shown to everyone. How awkward, how embarrassing and how humiliating it would be. I don’t think I could face that. I don’t think I could. Just thinking about it makes my knees tremble. Astaghfirullah. Forgive me, My Lord…

I need to save myself from all those possible humiliating moments. I know that I need to change whatever is not good within myself, bit by bit. It is going to take some time. But, I have to do it.

I remember and advice of my beloved Prophet (peace be upon him):

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said : “Whoever, among you, sees something abominable should rectify it with his hand; and if he has not strength enough to do it, then he should do it with his tongue; and if he has not strength enough to do it, (even) then he should (abhor it ) from his heart, and that is the least of Faith. ” (Muslim)


I have always heard this Hadith being using by Muslims when analyzing the behavior of others. I feel, however, that the advice from my Prophet ( peace be upon him) can best be applied to one’s own behavior.

He (peace be upon him) said that, if we something abominable, we should rectify it with our hands. Hands, according to the scholars, refer to actions. So, if I discover that there are things in me that are not good, shouldn’t I also apply this hadith to myself?.

I believe so. Yes, this means that I should modify whatever behavior is not desirable, right? Change it with my hands. Change it with actions-actions that would help alter my current behavior to new one consistent with what Allah wants.

I know I have to do it myself, because Allah has said in the Glorious Qur’an what can be translated as :

( This is because Allah has never changed o favor which He has conferred upon a people until they change their own condition; and because Allah is Hearing, Knowing. )(Al-Anfal 8 : 53)

Unless I change my own behaviors with my own actions, they will remain the same. Allah will not change them for me, if I, myself, refuse to change what I do, or who I am, right now. It is all up to me. It is so obvious, so clear. Change myself, or else I will never changed. Allah says He will never changed anyone until they change themselves.

But, then, Allah told me that if I do actually turn to Him, then He would give me this…

(Turn towards Allah, O believers, every one of you, so that you may be successful.) (An-Nur 24: 31)


Ahh… Success! It is among my favorite words, really.

I love this ayah (verse). It has one simple guideline that allows us to become successful in both this world and in the Hereafter. The word “so” in “so that you may be successful” sounds like a guarantee. Like, drink so that your thirst is quenched. Eat so that your hunger is gone, Study so that you pass the exam. Follow Allah so that you can become successful. A guarantee from Allah! Want to change ? Turn to Him. This is what our Lord said.

Let me share with you a “micro” mini-book I once read, a super-short story containing five scenes with an analogy worth sharing…

Scene 1 :
I walk down a street, and there’s a deep hole in sidewalk. I fall in. It takes forever to get out. It’s not my fault.

Scene 2 :
I walk down the same street. I fall in the hole again. It still takes long time to get out. It’s my fault.

Scene 3 :
I walk down the same street. I fall in the hole again. It’s becoming a habit. It is definitely my fault. I get out immediately.

Scene 4 :
I walk down the same street and see the deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Scene 5 :
I walk down a different street.

Cute, right? Finally the narrator walked down a different street. This story I beautifully written as it is very simple and direct. And I love its simplicity. Despite that, it carries with it a fundamental guideline for change…

This story made me think of some things that I have faced in my life. How many times must I fall into the same hole? Twice? Thrice? Think about it. Wouldn’t I come out as someone who never learns, someone who is dense, silly, or unintelligent, if I kept falling into the same hole, over and over again?

What about you, my dearest friends? Think about something that you have always wanted to change. And ask yourself, honestly: which scene are you in right now, and what should you do to make sure that you get to the last and final scene?

Think about the street you are walking on now. Is there a hole in which you keep falling in and end up hurting yourself? Why do you still fall in, despite knowing of its existence? Why is it so hard for you to walk around it, or maybe even use another street?

So, my pals, this is the deal. If there is a hole on the street you are currently on, move to another scene, or, better still, change the street you are walking on. Failure to do so will put you at risk of hurting yourself if you fall hard Either way, you need to decide and make the change. Be brave. Be hold. Make the change that will make you successful. Make the needed change for the sake of Allah. Walk on another street.

Remember, my dear friends, Allah promises. Not me. Not your parents. Not your friends. Not your boss. It is the promise of our Creator, our Lord, the Most Powerful.

Change. Turn towards him. And be successful.

Is there anything better for us in this life than His promise?

From book : Life Is An Open Secret
Writer : Zabrina A. Bakar

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:: Permata Yang DiCaRi ::

Sunday, October 25, 2009


:: Apabila 2 Hati telah berpaut maka apakah ia benar-benar Kukuh::
:: Adakah Pautan Itu benar-benar ditunjangi akan kekuatan Iman::
:: Adakah ia semata-mata untuk permainan diri dalam memenuhi kehendak nafsu semata-mata::
:: Sedarlah insan ... Apakah kalian benar-benar ikhlas dalam merealitikan kehendak diri :
:: Apakah kalian sedari bahawa kehidupan ini apabila tersilap dalam menentukan langkah ... maka kesilapan akan ditemui... penyesalan mungkin jalan terbaik tetapi perlu sedari pengajaran hari ini perlulah dijadikan pengalaman dan panduan untuk meneruskan langkah pada esok hari...

Kalian perlu sedari dalam mengejar mimpi
menuju satu cita sejati ...
menggapai seribu Impian ...
perlukan kepada persediaan diri yang benar-benar lengkap ...

Di sini ku kongsi bersama akan suatu nukilan dari suara hati
bagi mereka yang benar-benar ikhlas dalam berhubungan
........:::.....:::::.....:::::.......

Hadirnya tanpa kusedari
Menggamit kasih cinta bersemi
Hadir cinta insan padaku ini
Anugerah kurniaan Ilahi

Lembut tutur bicaranya
Menarik hatiku untuk mendekatinya
Kesopanannya memikat di hati
Mendamaikan jiwaku yang resah ini

Ya Allah
Jika dia benar untukku
Dekatkanlah hatinya dengan hatiku
Jika dia bukan milikku
Damaikanlah hatiku
Dengan ketentuan-Mu

Dialah permata yang dicari
Selama ini baru kutemui
Tapi ku tak pasti rencana Ilahi
Apakah dia kan kumiliki
Tidak sekali dinodai nafsu
Akan kubatasi dengan syariat-Mu
Jika dirinya bukan untukku
Redha hatiku dengan ketentuan-Mu

Ya Allah
Engkaulah tempat kubergantung harapanku
Kuharap diriku sentiasa di bawah rahmat-Mu


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:: aku sedari akan kesilapan ku...::

Thursday, October 15, 2009


:: Selasa lepas balik dari pj mood aku tiba2 tak elok.. aku sebenarnya tersilap dalam membuat pertimbangan.. Menyebabkan hari keesokannya terasa seperti aku telah membuat kesilapan besar... aku telah menyusahkan orang yang aku sayang.. aku pasrah dan aku sungguh menyesal...

Aku berjanji pada diriku bahawa aku takkan mengulangi lagi kesilapan ini.. Aku berharap dirinya dapat memaafkan aku.. Aku tidak sanggup lagi kehilangan dirinya... Kerana bagiku dia adalah insan yang sngat aku perlukan sama-sama berkongsi masalah.. Aku berharap dia juga memendam rasa yang sama.. aku mungkin mampu untuk berhasrat tapi belum tentu hasrat ku ini difahami dirinya...:: bagiku ungkapan perpisahan tiada dalam kamus diriku... tetap bagaimanapun berlaku aku tetap akan setia menunggu ... aku akan terus menanti... sekiranya ajal itu yang menjadi pengakhiran maka aku tetap perlu menerima kerana itu adalah kehendak tuhan Yang Maha Esa..

:: beginilah kehidupan manusia, dia tidak boleh menghalang suatu yang pasti dan suatu yang memang sudah ditentukan... Kerana kehidupan manusia di muka bumi ini hanyalah fantasi .. tidak hakiki dan berkekalan... ::

YA Allah Ya tuhanku... aku panjatkan kemaafan serta aku memohon kepada engkau menerima taubat ku di atas kesilapan ku yang lalu...

Wahai ibu dan ayahku yang tersayang.. Anakmu di sini sentiasa mendoakan kesejahteraan dirimu berdua .. Semoga dengan penat lelah serta keringat dayamu dahulu sehingga membuatkan diriku berada di depan matamu akan sentiasa berada dalam keredhaan Ilahi yang berpanjangan...

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:: Pakej Perkahwinan ::

Wednesday, October 14, 2009


:: Selamat pengantin baru kepada mereka yang bakal mendirikan rumah tangga... Terutama kepada sahabat baik iaitu Ustaz Hafizudin Hassan... :: Duk sibuk memangjang bekerja tak kira malam siang... Kasihan pulak pena tengok.. Yerlah katanya nak kumpul duit hantaran pastu nak kumpul duit nak beli kereta...

:: macam2 ragam orang yang nak berkahwin ni.. Ada yang bekerja sampai diri sendiri terseksa..Pena doakan moga2 kerja kuat mereka ni sentiasa di bawah lindungan ilahi.. Kepada mereka yang belum lagi merancang nak kahwin or mereka yang yang baru nak merancang perkahwinan, pena nasihatkan rancang lah dengan penuh hikmah dan persiapkan diri dari sekrang... Strategi kena betul.. Planning kena merangkumi semua perkara...

Nak kahwin bukan mesti fikir soal duit je tau.. Soal ilmu rumah tangga tu penting.. sebab Islam tak mensyaratkan duit itu perkara utama tapi kemampuan diri dari segi pelbagai aspek yang menjadi perkara utama...


Baru2 ni pena dapat banyak undangan perkahwinan.. Fuh... lagi satu tarikh kahwin pulak semua bulan 12 ... macam mereka yang kahwin ni ada ambik pakej perkahwinan ke kat mana-mana... !!!
hehe ... lawak betul mereka ni ... ada juga mereka ni sebenarnya dah ada gosip lama2 tapi tak sangka rupanya betul.. kepada unit melodi yang ada duk um tahniah lah .. kerana berjaya merealitikan berita sensasi yang penuh kontroversi jugak kiranya ni... hehe,,,,,

:: baguslah ... kepada teman-teman, senior2 aku ni ... korang memang hebat lah.. pena mampu doakan bahawa mereka ni berbahagia sehingga ke anak cucu...

:: nanti bila dah dapat anak jangan lupa pulak jemput ke majlis akikah pulak k...

:: Rumah tangga hiasan permata syurga... kilauan bahtera kehidupan dihiasi dengan keimanan ::
Ya Allah engkau rahmatilah pasangan bahagia ini .. Agar dengan terbinanya ikatan mulia ni maka lindungan tuhan terus dibukakan dan diperluaskan untuk kesejahteraan bersama..

Allahuakbar! Allahuakbar ! Allahuakbar ! Segala-galanya terserah dan engkau aturkan satu perancangan yang terbaik bagi mereka ni ... ::

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:: Inspirasi KU ...:::

Thursday, October 8, 2009

::: Salam ukhwah fillah.... Celik tak celik akhirnya dah nak sampai ke penghujung akhir semester.. Bila dihitung tinggal berapa minggu je lagi nak final exam.. Penulis pun lepas raya hari tu lama benor tak update blog... Yer lah balik je dari raya kerja pun bertimbun.. Itu pun jika diberi peluang untuk melarikan diri memang pena ni nak sangat lari... Yerlah tak semudah yang disangka sebenarnya....

Itulah akibatnya diri tak rancang betul2 masa ni.. Hehe.. Kata orang manusia ni tak boleh lari daripada masalah.. dan melarikan diri daripada masalah itu akan menambahkan lagi masalah. Tapi manusia itu perlu menghadapi nya jugak. Kerana dengan masalah inilah manusia akan lebih tahu akan selok belok kehidupan. Bagaimana nak survive, nak tahu mcam mana nak mengatasi masalah. Nak kenal pasti itu adalah masalah dan apakah kemampuan diri...

Jika ada orang berkata dirinya tidak pernah hadapi masalah maka adalah suatu yang bermasalah dalam hidupnya.. Yer lah semua manusia yang berada di atas muka bumi ni akan hadapi masalah. Yang penting adalah kemampuan manusia dan usaha manusia itu dalam mencuba menyelesaikan masalah...

;;;;; 11 oktober 2009 ::; Tarikh aku diberi tanggunggjawab untuk memberi training kat budak-budak terengganu dalam bengkel ICT... fuh.. Berdebar jugak. Yer lah walaupun pena pernah memberi ceramah sebelum ini di sekolah lama hatta memang diri ini kalu ikutkan biasa sangat lah diberi tanggungjwab untuk mengendalikan satu program.. Perasaan GUGUP atau pun bimbang pasti hadir.. Betul lah kata orang pengalaman mengajar kita akan lebih berhati-hati dan pengalaman lah yang membuatkan kita lebih kehadapan...

BUat kekasih Abadi ku aku berdoa kepadaMU moga-moga engkau mengurniakan aku kekuatan dan buat kekasih diriku doakanlah akan diri ku ini moga-moga pena ni dipermudahkan dan mampu dalam melaksanakan apa yang diamanahkan...

sebenarnya pena belum merancang lagi apa yang nak diajar.. Setakat adobe photoshope... Mampu lagi.. Dalam masa yang sama ni apa lagi nak kongsi ngan teman... Ya Allah semoga ilmu yang kucurahkan kepada teman-temanku ini engkau balasi dengan apa yang aku sendiri tak sangka-sangka kan..

Ya Allah engkau murahkan lah rezeki hambamu ini ... Tiada satu ungkapan yang mampu aku katakan untuk menandakan aku begitu mensyukuri akan kurniaan pemberian mu.. Kerana kurniaan mu itu aku sendiri tidak mampu untuk menghitungnya kerana ia sangat bernilai dan tiada ukuran dalam dunia ini yang boleh menjadikan ia sandaran untuk dijadikan pengukur akan apa yang telah engkau kurniakan....

Buat kekasih diri ku aku berharap engkau juga sentiasa diberi kekuatan... Semoga cita-cita murni kita ini bukan untuk kebaikan diri kita semata-mata tetapi kebaikan itu untuk dikongsi dan orang di sekeliling kita mendapat kebaikan daripada apa yang kita kongsikan...

Buat kekasih diriku aku tujukan sebuah lirik lagu untuk menggambarakan apa yang aku inspirasi kan dalam KEHIDUPAN ini .....

Inspirasi...

Diriku berlari
Kejar buih di kaki sirahmu
Malangnya tak jumpa
Hilang ditelan ombak masa

Lelah aku
Dan termangu di sini
Mencari sinar

Ku cuba mengutip
Butir bistari di pesisir kalammu
Inginku sematkan
Menghiasi dada kehidupanku

lalu terang destinasi abadi
Di hujung langkahku

Kau inspirasi
Jiwa nan suci
Inginku terus selami

Di dasar dirimu kilau cahaya
Mutiara putih
Menyinar ke dalam lubuk jiwa
Nan gelap gelita

Di dasar dirimu
Karang indah
Halus penuh seni
meneguh perjuangan kebenaran
Hikmah pekerti

Kau inspirasi
Permata hati
Ingin ku terus selami

Kau inspirasi
Walau kau pergi
Namun ku tetap di sini..

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